Recently, I started a home garden; a dream I’ve carried for years finally sprouted into reality. Most mornings, I step out to water and tend to the plants, feeling both present and peaceful. One morning, as I was admiring my little patch of green, I asked my husband about a tall, leafy plant that had grown so beautifully. With a soft chuckle, he said, “That’s not a plant. That’s a weed.”
A weed. I had been nurturing, watering, and protecting a weed thinking it was something good.
In that moment, a deeper truth hit me.
How many of us, in our own lives, are watering weeds?
Beliefs…
Habits…
Relationships…
Thought patterns…
Goals we’ve outgrown…We invest our energy into things we assume are right until someone or something reveals otherwise.
What You Don’t Know Will Cost You
Here’s the truth: Ignorance is expensive.
What you don’t know about yourself: your values, your wounds, your habits, and even your strengths can lead you to pour your energy into the wrong things.
You may find yourself:
- Holding onto a friendship that’s draining you
- Pursuing a career path that doesn’t light you up
- Believing a lie about your worth that limits your confidence
- Repeating toxic cycles in relationships or business
Like that weed in my garden, it grows uninvited and unnoticed until it starts competing with what’s truly meant to thrive in your life. The worst part? You’ll defend it and may even call it beautiful because you don’t yet know the difference.
Pay Attention to Patterns
This moment in my garden reminded me of a critical truth in identity discovery:
If you don’t know what to weed out, you’ll end up feeding what is sabotaging your growth.
Take a moment to examine: What might you be watering in your life that’s actually a weed?
Here are common “life-weeds” I see in the women I coach:
- Self-doubt disguised as humility
- People-pleasing masked as compassion
- Perfectionism mistaken for excellence
- Overcommitment posing as ambition
- Guilt pretending to be responsibility
Weeds blend in, they look like the good stuff. That’s why you must learn to discern.
Here’s how:
7 Steps to Stop Watering the Weeds in Your Life
- Slow Down – Reflection happens in stillness, stop rushing. Take time to evaluate what’s truly growing in your life.
- Ask Better Questions – Instead of “Is this working?” ask: “Is this aligned with who I’m becoming?”
- Track Patterns – Journal moments where you feel drained, stuck, or out of alignment. What keeps repeating?
- Seek Wise Counsel – A trusted coach, mentor, or friend may see what you’re too close to notice.
- Uproot Gently, But Firmly – You don’t have to burn bridges, but you must stop feeding what no longer serves your destiny.
- Replace with Intention – Pulling a weed leaves a gap. Fill it with life-giving beliefs, habits, or relationships.
- Guard Your Garden – Growth is ongoing. Be mindful about who or what you allow to stay in your life.
Darling, you were not created to live a life that is overgrown with confusion, clutter, or compromise.
You were created for brilliance.
brilliance must be curated. It requires discernment which demands courage.
I ask you: What have you been unknowingly watering in your life?
It’s time to Reassess, Pause, Pull up and you don’t have to do it alone.
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