A Christmas Reflection for the Woman You’re Becoming
It’s the season of celebration of love, joy, and reflection. Christmas invites us to pause and remember the heart of the story: the birth of Jesus, the ultimate expression of God’s love to humanity. God sent His Son in the most unexpected way;§wrapped in humility, born into SIMPLICITY and The enemy didn’t see it coming. Love arrived quietly, yet powerfully. Jesus truly is the reason for the season.
As young women navigating purpose, leadership, careers, relationships, and faith, Christmas is more than a holiday: it is a divine checkpoint and a sacred invitation to return. To return to Christ. To rebuild and rekindle relationships with family and friends and just as importantly, to rejuvenate your relationship with yourself—your identity, your values, your inner voice.
This year may have stretched you in ways you didn’t anticipate. There were challenges, transitions, and moments that tested you physically, mentally, and emotionally. Perhaps you experienced stress, loss, disappointment, or delay. However, there were also moments of triumph, small wins, deep joy, unexpected peace, promotions, growth, and provision.
Here’s something powerful to remember as you wind down the year: the very fact that you are reading this means you made it.
You are victorious.
You conquered.
You are a winner.
Yes, you may still be nursing scars, bruises, or disappointments but you survived and your survival is not weakness; it’s evidence of strength.
Next year, we go again, wiser, stronger, and more grounded.
As you slow down, reflect on these reminders:
• You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Look at what you endured and still stood through, that strength didn’t come from nowhere it was built in the process.
• Be grateful for every victory and success, big or small. Gratitude anchors your heart and expands your capacity for more.
• Failure means you took action. You showed up, you tried and now you’re learning. Remember this truth: the process has to work on you before it works for you.
• Plan for your season. Celebrate if you must, cry if you need to but don’t stay stuck. The next chapter of your life requires preparation and intentional planning.
As you celebrate and plan, take time to evaluate these five core principles as we round up the year:
1. Alignment
Ask yourself: Am I aligned with where God sent me, or have I drifted? Jonah drifted, and storms followed until alignment was restored. Not every opportunity this year was from God. Alignment brings peace; misalignment brings unnecessary resistance.
2. Stewardship
What did you do with what was entrusted to you, your time, career, business, skills, relationships, influence? Growth is proof of stewardship of your gifts, talents and skills and burial is reflection of fear or ingratitude. Did what you were given grow or deteriorate this year?
3. Obedience Over Outcome
How did you follow instructions even when they did not make sense?
Noah built the ark without seeing rain. The Bible records that he did everything God commanded. God does not offer suggestions, He gives instructions. Learn to obey instructions that come as charge, teachings and personal study.
4. Character
Who did you become in the process?
Success without character is short-lived. God preserves people, families, and legacies through character. Aim to be unrecognizable but in the positive way, let your competition be with your previous self.
5. Rest and Renewal
Did you stop long enough to hear God again?
Burnout is not a badge of honor and there is no trophy for suffering. Rest is spiritual intelligence. You cannot hear God or yourself in constant noise. I usually say, please I need spaces where I can hear myself think. Find a place to pause, reflect, and reset.
Leadership is not just about what you achieve, it is about who you are becoming. As John Maxwell wisely said, “Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another.” The most important person you influence first is yourself.
Instead of only asking, “What did I achieve this year?” ask a deeper question:
“What did God shape in me?
Who did I become?”
As we close the year, you do not need ten resolutions. You need one clear goal because goals are stacked, year after year, season after season.
Decide to take intentional time this week to reflect, pray, journal, and realign.
Choose one area for alignment, stewardship, obedience, character, or rest and commit to grow.
Step into the new year renewed not rushed, clear, not confused, bold and not burned out.
You are becoming the person your future needs.
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