Every third Sunday in June, we pause to recognize, honor, and celebrate one of life’s most powerful roles: Fatherhood.
This isn’t just a Hallmark moment. It’s a divine opportunity to reflect on the irreplaceable role fathers play in shaping identity, building self-worth, and modelling strength and love especially for their children, both sons and daughters.
Fatherhood is more than provision.
It is presence.
It is consistency.
It is covering (emotionally, spiritually, and physically).
Many of the things, I do today as an adult stem from the security I learnt from my dad, being a silent warrior who is calm and focused in chaos as well as my career choice have been influenced by my father. For many of us, a father’s presence created a safe place where we first learned what protection, guidance, and affirmation felt like. But for those who didn’t grow up with this presence, Father’s Day can also be bittersweet.
Yet, it’s also a chance to reclaim hope; to honor the men who are showing up, and to call forth a generation of fathers who will raise whole, loved, and secure children.
What Daughters Need from Fathers
There’s something truly powerful about the bond between a father and daughter. A loving father gives his daughter her first mirror. From him, she learns what it means to
be seen, to be valued, and to be treated with dignity.
1. Security
A father’s presence can be a fortress of emotional security. When a daughter
knows she is protected, not just from harm but from emotional neglect; she learns to carry herself with confidence and self-respect.
2. Affirmation and Identity
Daughters draw confidence from their father’s words. A simple “I’m proud of you,” or “You’re beautiful and smart,” echoes into her decisions, relationships, and even how she sees herself in leadership and life. Without this grounding, many daughters spend years searching for validation they were always meant to receive at home.
3. Emotional Safety
Fathers who are emotionally available create a sense of belonging and permission for daughters to be vulnerable and express themselves. In a world that constantly pressures women to shrink or harden, a father’s love says: You
are enough just as you are.
What Sons Learn from Their Fathers
For sons, fathers are both blueprint and compass. From them, boys learn how to handle strength, how to treat women, how to respond to failure, and how to carry responsibility.
1. Modeling Masculinity
A son’s first understanding of what it means to be a man often comes from his father. Is it gentleness, strength, sacrifice, or arrogance? Fathers model the
values their sons will carry into future families and careers.
2. Accountability and Purpose
Fathers help sons set boundaries and pursue purpose. A father’s discipline,
when rooted in love, is not about control but about calling a young man to
greatness.
3. Mentorship
A good father doesn’t just give advice; he lives a life worth emulating. He teaches how to handle pressure, how to love a woman with honor, and how to rise after failure. Sons may not always say it, but they are watching closely.
To the Fathers Who Are Showing Up
We see you go beyond responsibility and duty to delight in their children. The fathers who coach football games, teach algebra after work, braid and brush hair before school, speak truth, and carry hugs that say “I love you.”
Whether biological, adoptive, or spiritual; fatherhood is a calling. A child may forget the gifts, but they never forget the way a father made them feel: seen, safe, and significant.
To the Daughters Who Miss Their Fathers
If your father is no longer here, whether due to death, absence, or estrangement. I want you to know this: your story matters. Your worth is not diminished, you are not alone.
Healing is very possible (I am an evidence). Father-figures can still arise in your
journey; through mentors, uncles, pastors, and trusted leaders. Keep your heart open to receive love again.
To Wives and Partners: Celebrate the man in your life. Your husband, your co-parent, your partner; if he is showing up, loving your children, and making an effort: let him know he is seen. A simple “Thank you,” a handwritten note, a thoughtful meal, or a prayer over his journey goes a long way in strengthening his resolve.
This Father’s Day, go beyond just a message. Take time to honor, appreciate, and affirm the fathers, father-figures, and future fathers in your life.
📌 Send a heartfelt message
📌 Share a memory or lesson he taught you
📌 Plan a family moment — a dinner, a prayer, a walk
📌 If you’re a mother, help your children honor their dad
“A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.” Unknown
To the father who is trying, growing, learning, and loving: Thank you! You are building legacies in hearts and families that will outlive you.